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Monday, September 26, 2011
Monday, June 13, 2011
Health Eco (1st Lesson)
Economics: A social science concerned with using scarce resources to obtain maximum satisfaction of the unlimited material wants of society. Derived from the Greek terms oikia (household) and nomos (management). It has 4 components: production, income, employment and consumption.
Scarcity: Imbalance between the individual's desires and the means of satisfying those desires.
Natural / Free Good: Those endowed to us by nature of which no expense is involved.
Economic Good: Commodity or service that is useful to human beings but must be paid for.
Wants: a person's desires or preferences for specific ways of satisfying a basic need. (Basic = essential; Created = improvement of basic wants.)
*wants exceed resources necessary to obtain them
*therefore we must make choices
*choices lead to cost
Opportunity Cost: Monetary or other advantages surrendered for something in order to acquire it in competition with other potential users.
DIVISION OF ECONOMICS
Macroeconomics: Study of economic systems as a whole especially with reference to its general level of output. It considers consumers as a unit; focused on the structure and function.
Microeconomics: Study of individuals and small groups, particular households, firms. It studies economy in terms of individual areas and consumer behavior.
Fundamental Economic Questions:
1.) What goods and services must be produced and how much is to be produced?
2.) How shall these goods and services be produced?
3.) Who shall receive and use these goods and services?
4.) Is the economy’s capacity to produce developing over time?
ECONOMICS AND OTHER SCIENCES
1.) Geography – Economics development of society is always dependent on geographical factors.
2.) History – Historical events usually are heavily influenced by economic phenomena.
3.) Geology – Geological data is important on economic products such as petroleum and minerals.
4.) Politics – Economic decisions are always influenced by governmental policies.
5.) Home Economics – Development of subjects and practical skills necessary for good home management and family life.
6.) Sociology and Anthropology – Economic developments and consumer behavior are always influenced by cultural factors.
7.) Philosophy – Economists are guided by logical, ethical and moral principles when they formulate methods of organizing the economy.
8.) Mathematics – Algebraic symbols, variables and geometry can be used to formulate assumptions.
9.) Statistics – provides comparative data to help understand the complexities of a given economic condition.
10.) Psychology – Consumer behavior is heavily influenced by the individuals’ instincts and mental processes.
11.) Natural / Physical Science – Natural resources are needed to produce economic goods.
ECONOMIC SYSTEMS
1.) Capitalism: Economic system in which private individuals are free to invest their savings, purchase goods and hire labor as they wish to develop their enterprise.
a.) Pure – or laissez faire means that the government should not intervene with economic decisions.
b.) Modified – Government intervenes and regulates business up to a certain extent.
Rights: Private property, profits, business decisions and choice.
2.) Socialism: Aims at a collective or governmental ownership and administration of the means of production and control of the distribution of goods.
3.) Mixed Economies: Based on a mixture of public and private ownership of the means of production, and on a considerable public regulation of the business sector.
4.) Welfare States Economy: Ownership of income-producing property and its economic equivalent is widely diffused.
ECONOMIC RESOURCES / FACTORS OF PRODUCTION
1.) Land: All natural resources.
2.) Labor: Human activity that produces the goods or provides the services in demand in an economy.
3.) Capital: Any accumulated factors of production utilized to aid in the production of other goods.
4.) Entrepreneurial Ability: Needed to organize, own, promote, manage and assume the risks of business endeavour and to implement right decisions.
*Land and capital are considered property resources while Labor and entrepreneurial ability are human resources.
Economic Development refers to the transformation of natural resources into ever-more valuable processed goods and improvement of services, and the marketing of them. Hence, according to the constitution, it must be the attainment and promotion of the following:
1.) Better quality of life
2.) Gainful employment
3.) Economic Efficiency
4.) Price level stability
5.) Economic Freedom
6.) An equitable distribution of opportunity, income and wealth.
7.) Economic Security
Scarcity: Imbalance between the individual's desires and the means of satisfying those desires.
Natural / Free Good: Those endowed to us by nature of which no expense is involved.
Economic Good: Commodity or service that is useful to human beings but must be paid for.
Wants: a person's desires or preferences for specific ways of satisfying a basic need. (Basic = essential; Created = improvement of basic wants.)
*wants exceed resources necessary to obtain them
*therefore we must make choices
*choices lead to cost
Opportunity Cost: Monetary or other advantages surrendered for something in order to acquire it in competition with other potential users.
DIVISION OF ECONOMICS
Macroeconomics: Study of economic systems as a whole especially with reference to its general level of output. It considers consumers as a unit; focused on the structure and function.
Microeconomics: Study of individuals and small groups, particular households, firms. It studies economy in terms of individual areas and consumer behavior.
Fundamental Economic Questions:
1.) What goods and services must be produced and how much is to be produced?
2.) How shall these goods and services be produced?
3.) Who shall receive and use these goods and services?
4.) Is the economy’s capacity to produce developing over time?
ECONOMICS AND OTHER SCIENCES
1.) Geography – Economics development of society is always dependent on geographical factors.
2.) History – Historical events usually are heavily influenced by economic phenomena.
3.) Geology – Geological data is important on economic products such as petroleum and minerals.
4.) Politics – Economic decisions are always influenced by governmental policies.
5.) Home Economics – Development of subjects and practical skills necessary for good home management and family life.
6.) Sociology and Anthropology – Economic developments and consumer behavior are always influenced by cultural factors.
7.) Philosophy – Economists are guided by logical, ethical and moral principles when they formulate methods of organizing the economy.
8.) Mathematics – Algebraic symbols, variables and geometry can be used to formulate assumptions.
9.) Statistics – provides comparative data to help understand the complexities of a given economic condition.
10.) Psychology – Consumer behavior is heavily influenced by the individuals’ instincts and mental processes.
11.) Natural / Physical Science – Natural resources are needed to produce economic goods.
ECONOMIC SYSTEMS
1.) Capitalism: Economic system in which private individuals are free to invest their savings, purchase goods and hire labor as they wish to develop their enterprise.
a.) Pure – or laissez faire means that the government should not intervene with economic decisions.
b.) Modified – Government intervenes and regulates business up to a certain extent.
Rights: Private property, profits, business decisions and choice.
2.) Socialism: Aims at a collective or governmental ownership and administration of the means of production and control of the distribution of goods.
3.) Mixed Economies: Based on a mixture of public and private ownership of the means of production, and on a considerable public regulation of the business sector.
4.) Welfare States Economy: Ownership of income-producing property and its economic equivalent is widely diffused.
ECONOMIC RESOURCES / FACTORS OF PRODUCTION
1.) Land: All natural resources.
2.) Labor: Human activity that produces the goods or provides the services in demand in an economy.
3.) Capital: Any accumulated factors of production utilized to aid in the production of other goods.
4.) Entrepreneurial Ability: Needed to organize, own, promote, manage and assume the risks of business endeavour and to implement right decisions.
*Land and capital are considered property resources while Labor and entrepreneurial ability are human resources.
Economic Development refers to the transformation of natural resources into ever-more valuable processed goods and improvement of services, and the marketing of them. Hence, according to the constitution, it must be the attainment and promotion of the following:
1.) Better quality of life
2.) Gainful employment
3.) Economic Efficiency
4.) Price level stability
5.) Economic Freedom
6.) An equitable distribution of opportunity, income and wealth.
7.) Economic Security
Friday, June 25, 2010
On Senselessitive Inquiries
- What's that?
- What?
- That, on your right foot. I saw it yesterday.
- Its a keloid.
- Oh. It's dark I can't see it.
- Yeah. So, can you pass me the peanuts?
- Here.
- Thanks.
- How bad?
- Is what?
- The fire, your keloid.
- Who said it was because of a fire?
- No one. I just assumed.
- You just... What?
* * * * *
- You can tell me about it, you know.
- What, what?
- I said you can tell me about it!
- Oh. Tell you what?
- The accident.
- Seriously?
- Yes.
- Here, at the bar? At the dance floor?
- You don't have to carry this around, you know.
- You've gotta be kidding me.
- What?
- That, on your right foot. I saw it yesterday.
- Its a keloid.
- Oh. It's dark I can't see it.
- Yeah. So, can you pass me the peanuts?
- Here.
- Thanks.
- How bad?
- Is what?
- The fire, your keloid.
- Who said it was because of a fire?
- No one. I just assumed.
- You just... What?
* * * * *
- You can tell me about it, you know.
- What, what?
- I said you can tell me about it!
- Oh. Tell you what?
- The accident.
- Seriously?
- Yes.
- Here, at the bar? At the dance floor?
- You don't have to carry this around, you know.
- You've gotta be kidding me.
Sunday, December 13, 2009
Prelim Handout for BSN2B (eu104)
HANDOUT IN EU104
Value: Property of objects representing their degree of importance; something that makes an object worthwhile.
Propriety: The quality of being appropriate.
Oughtness: The state of being as a thing ought to be; rightness.
Objective Values: Those that are outside the individual and are not dependent upon perception or belief.
Morality: Ideal code of conduct and belief which would be preferred by the sane person under specified conditions.
- knowledge of right and wrong
- involves free will
- freedom to choice to follow or not
Characteristics of Moral Values:
1.) Reasonable and freely chosen
2.) Pre-eminent over human values
3.) Absolute
4.) Universal
5.) Obligatory
Aesthetic Value: Value which causes an object to be beautiful or to be a work of art.
"Pagkatao": The meaning of being human.
Personal Value: Developed from early life and evolve from circumstances with the external wold.
Cultural Value: Commonly held standards of right and wrong in a community or society.
Work Value: Set of values and beliefs based on hard work and diligence; belief in the moral benefit of hard work to enhance character.
Phenomenology: Philosophy that states that bias should be suspended in experiencing phenomenon to arrive at an accurate description of reality and/or truth.
Experiential Knowledge: Based on experience.
Conceptual Knowledge: Based on second-hand concepts.
Faith: Confident belief or trust in the truth or trustworthiness of a person, idea or thing. It involves future context, is transcendental and is beyond reason.
- The object of faith is its realization, a greater understanding of God.
Value: Property of objects representing their degree of importance; something that makes an object worthwhile.
Propriety: The quality of being appropriate.
Oughtness: The state of being as a thing ought to be; rightness.
Objective Values: Those that are outside the individual and are not dependent upon perception or belief.
Morality: Ideal code of conduct and belief which would be preferred by the sane person under specified conditions.
- knowledge of right and wrong
- involves free will
- freedom to choice to follow or not
Characteristics of Moral Values:
1.) Reasonable and freely chosen
2.) Pre-eminent over human values
3.) Absolute
4.) Universal
5.) Obligatory
Aesthetic Value: Value which causes an object to be beautiful or to be a work of art.
"Pagkatao": The meaning of being human.
Personal Value: Developed from early life and evolve from circumstances with the external wold.
Cultural Value: Commonly held standards of right and wrong in a community or society.
Work Value: Set of values and beliefs based on hard work and diligence; belief in the moral benefit of hard work to enhance character.
Phenomenology: Philosophy that states that bias should be suspended in experiencing phenomenon to arrive at an accurate description of reality and/or truth.
Experiential Knowledge: Based on experience.
Conceptual Knowledge: Based on second-hand concepts.
Faith: Confident belief or trust in the truth or trustworthiness of a person, idea or thing. It involves future context, is transcendental and is beyond reason.
- The object of faith is its realization, a greater understanding of God.
Prelim Handout for HRM1F (eu100b)
HANDOUT IN EU 100B
Personality: Embodiment of feelings and behavior which makes man the unique person that he is.
Components of Personality:
1. Habits – Actions so often repeated at regular intervals until they become fixed characteristics.
2. Attitudes – Certain ways of viewing things as acquired through years of exposure.
3. Interest – Natural inclination to focus one’s concern towards a specific area of work.
4. Values – Ways of upholding certain priorities in accordance with hierarchy of needs.
5. Principles – Guides to a person in making judgments.
6. Intellectual Capacities – Innate faculty of the mind which gives the person power to discern, recognize and comprehend.
Developing One’s Personality
1. Self Awareness – Indicates what kind of person you are.
2. Assessment of Personal Assets and Liabilities – based on intelligence, talents, resources, flexibilities and attractiveness.
3. Personal Effectiveness – Means how useful you are to yourself and other people.
Reasons for Developing Personality
1. Self Satisfaction
2. Self Confidence
3.To keep ourselves on the job.
Foundations of Personality
1. Mental – Intellectual Capacity .
2. Social – How well a person conducts himself with other people.
3. Physical – The physiological structure of individual.
4. Emotional – Emotional makeup.
5. Moral – Awareness of right and wrong.
6. Spiritual – Consciousness of higher values in life.
External Attributes of Personality
1. Physical Health
2. Hygiene
3. Grooming
4. Accessories
5. Make-up
6. Posture
7. Use of Color Combinations
Physical Health
1. Brain 2. Exercise 3. Nutrition 4. Skin
Good Grooming: Appropriate clothes on appropriate occasions.
Essentials in Buying Clothes: Good fit, Good workmanship and Good Materials.
Accessories: Jewelry, shoes, bags.
Good Posture: State which enables the body to function to the best advantage.
Personality: Embodiment of feelings and behavior which makes man the unique person that he is.
Components of Personality:
1. Habits – Actions so often repeated at regular intervals until they become fixed characteristics.
2. Attitudes – Certain ways of viewing things as acquired through years of exposure.
3. Interest – Natural inclination to focus one’s concern towards a specific area of work.
4. Values – Ways of upholding certain priorities in accordance with hierarchy of needs.
5. Principles – Guides to a person in making judgments.
6. Intellectual Capacities – Innate faculty of the mind which gives the person power to discern, recognize and comprehend.
Developing One’s Personality
1. Self Awareness – Indicates what kind of person you are.
2. Assessment of Personal Assets and Liabilities – based on intelligence, talents, resources, flexibilities and attractiveness.
3. Personal Effectiveness – Means how useful you are to yourself and other people.
Reasons for Developing Personality
1. Self Satisfaction
2. Self Confidence
3.To keep ourselves on the job.
Foundations of Personality
1. Mental – Intellectual Capacity .
2. Social – How well a person conducts himself with other people.
3. Physical – The physiological structure of individual.
4. Emotional – Emotional makeup.
5. Moral – Awareness of right and wrong.
6. Spiritual – Consciousness of higher values in life.
External Attributes of Personality
1. Physical Health
2. Hygiene
3. Grooming
4. Accessories
5. Make-up
6. Posture
7. Use of Color Combinations
Physical Health
1. Brain 2. Exercise 3. Nutrition 4. Skin
Good Grooming: Appropriate clothes on appropriate occasions.
Essentials in Buying Clothes: Good fit, Good workmanship and Good Materials.
Accessories: Jewelry, shoes, bags.
Good Posture: State which enables the body to function to the best advantage.
Monday, November 30, 2009
Sociology
Marami ako'ng nalimutang sabihin noong Biyernes. May paoutline-outline pa akong nalalaman sa kapirasong papel, hindi ko rin naman pala masusunod. Nag-alala kasi ako na baka masyadong mapahaba ang sasabihin ko noon, kaya tuloy, nawala ako sa wisyo.
Titiyagain ko na mailagay dito ang iba sa mga yon.
Binabawi ko na ang sinabi ko noong nasa kolehiyo ako, na hindi ko tiningnan ang pag-aaral ng Sociology dahil sa trabaho nito, na lagi ko lang muna iniisip na pag-aralan ang lipunan. Lingid pala sa nalalaman ko, lagi kong iniisip ang magiging trabaho ng nasa disiplina ko. At ang trabahong yun ay talagang gusto ko, kaya naman sabi ko nga nung Biyernes, talagang nagtiis ako ng isang taon na walang trabaho para mapapunta sa ninanais kong karera. Tatlo lang talaga ang gusto kong puntahan, at yun ang tatahakin talaga ng isang Sociology major: pananaliksik (research), community development, at akademya. Naroon ako ngayon sa ikatlo. Sa totoo lang, sulit ang paghihintay ko. Pati na ang pangungutya ng ibang tao, pati na ang pagdududa sa sarili. Hindi sa pagmamayabang kahit kilala akong mayabang, sa tuwing makikita at mararamdaman ko ang pagkamangha ng estudyante sa klase ko dahil sa pagpapaliwanag ko ng teorya, problema sa lipunan at kahit pagbibiro, pawi na ang pagod ko sa pagdidikta ng mga depinisyon at kung anu-ano pa. Paalala itong hindi talaga ako nagkamali.
Siyempre, bukod pa ang sinabi ni sir Batoon nung PTSA na tama naman talaga, kahit saan kami pumunta ay may trabaho kami. Sa isang banda, nakakatuwang isipin na kami na inaaral ang masasamang dulot ng division of labor ay hindi naman talaga napapasailalim nito, dahil sa totoo lang, hangga't may tao, may kakalagyan ang socio. Kung ang isang taga-Nursing ay magiging nurse, accountancy ay magiging accountant, hindi kami ganun, LAMPAS kami sa ganoong sistema.
Tuwang tuwa talaga ako sa batch ng 4th year ngayon. Dati, medyo banas talaga ako sa kanila. Medyo hindi ko talaga sila trip. Hindi ko pa sila masyadong kilala, iilan lang. Si Rap, joker. Si Roxy, mataray. Si Kat na magaling mangatwiran (yak, shifter). Si Harry, maangas noon (maldita na ngayon). Payat pa si Aika dati, crush ko pa sya nun (yiiiii F na F!). Si Ms. Agoncillo, akala ko dati Mr. Si Danzel, akala ko mukhang yosi at volleyball lang. Hindi ko nga kilala noon ang PM nila ngayon na si Claire na pseudo-ex pala ni...
Pasintabi lang po. But in all this bluster, I'm saying this with all the love in the world.
Pero noon yun, 3 years ago. Nakakahiya, ako itong nabigyan ng pagsasanay sa pananaliksik at namuhunan ng malaki sa teorya ng phenomenology, ako pa ang may angas na magkaroon ng bias noon. Sabi kasi nila noon, salitan ang batch na magagaling, kaya ngayon, mali ako. Lalo na noong Setyembre, nung pumunta ako sa TBS nila. Ang pinangangambahan kong pagka-OP (hindi order of preachers) ay hindi halos nangyari. May birtud yata ng pakikisama ang mga yun, kaya naman madali ko silang nakatrabaho bilang biglaang facilitator. Tuwang tuwa ako, isa iyon sa pinakamagagandang TBS na nangyari sa kasaysayan ng USTSS ngayong dekada. At ang PTSA na sinimulan namin noong 4th year kami at freshmen lang sila, maganda din. Sana mas maraming Alumni next time.
Sa mga alumni, lalo na sa mga ka-batch ko, alam kong may ilan sa kanila na ayaw pumunta dahil sa isang dahilan: nahihiya. Nahihiya dahil hindi nila pina-practice ang disiplina namin. Ok lang yan guys, tyagaan lang. Wag lang hayaan ang sariling mapako sa kinalalagyan at masaya tayong lahat. Sa may mga determinasyon, hindi maaaring hindi matupad ang pangarap; nauudyot lang.
Ipinagmamalaki ko talaga ang karera kong hindi naman masyadong malaki ang kita SA NGAYON (ayan ha, caps lock). Ang ikinaangas-angas ko noon sa AB, binawasan ko na muna ngayon kasi wala akong napalang maganda kung hindi ko tatabasan ng kaunti. Kung babanggain mo ang isang istraktura, konkreto man o ideya, malamang-lamang ikaw ang babagsak, masasaktan, mabibigo. Hindi naman ako tinuruan ng ganoon sa Community Development. Ang sabi nga ni Alinsky, work within the system, not against it. Nagpakumbaba ka na, nasa stratehiya ka pa. Two-for-one sale. Kung may ibabagsak, siguraduhing may itatayong panibago mas mainam. Kung hindi, para ka rin lang nang-giyera ng mahinang bansa dahil taliwas sila sa pinaniniwalaan mo. O kaya, rebeldeng walang napala at napatunayan.
Panalo talaga ang limang gabing pagbubuno ko ng final paper ko sa Trends in Social Development sa ilalim ni Ka Puroy noon. Huling semestre ko na noon sa kolehiyo. Tulpok sa keyboard, kutos sa sarili, kamot sa ulo, tulpok uli. Limang gabi ba namang pag-isipan ang tatahakin mong landas pagka-graduate, kundi ka ba naman lumabnaw ang utak at dadgain sa dibdib. Dagdagan pa ang pagbibigay ng isang teorya na susuporta sa kukuhain mong trabaho, tapos isi-synthesis. Matapos ang limang gabi, naipasa ko na ang limang pahinang laman ang Theory of Communicative Action ni Habermas at tatahakin ko sa akademya. Kung susumahin, parang mas maipagmamalaki ko pa iyon kaysa sa thesis ko. Dapat talaga, binibigyan ng ganoong paper ang 4th year taon-taon, para magising sila sa katotohanan at harapin ito.
Sabi ko kasi sa sarili ko noon na gusto ko ring sabihin sa mga dumalo ng PTSA noong Biyernes (kaso hindi ko nga nasabi), kundi ko makikita ang personal na karakter ko sa propesyon ko, ang pagkatao ko, binalewala ko lang ang labing-anim na taon kong pag-aaral sa pormal na edukasyon. Nag-utuan lang kami lahat ng mga nakasama ko sa pamantasan, kaklase ko, propesor, guidance counselor, kaibigang manunulat, seniors at lower batch, librarian at student assistans dahil sa pangungulit ko lagi sa Social Science at Journals section ng Central Library, nina manong guard, mga nagtitinda ng pagkain para kina manong guard (mura lang, P25 busog ka na), mga nagbasa ng sinulat ko sa publication, manggagawa sa Nestle, kabataan at katutubo sa Maligcong, magsasaka sa DRT at Laguna, Aeta sa Zambales, at higit sa lahat, ng sarili ko.
Marami nang nagyayaring utuan sa paligid ko sa dumaang dalawang dekada kong nabubuhay. Ayaw ko nang sumali pa. Sarili ko rin lang ang una't huli kong lolokohin, kaya hindi na lang.
Sa mga nasa larangan ng Sociology, makasama ko sana kayo sa salimuot ng lipunan at pagka-makulay ng ating disiplina. Hangga't mahigpit ang hawak, hangga't hindi bibitaw ang timpi. Ang inyong pagpupursige ay siya ko ring pagpapatuloy.
Titiyagain ko na mailagay dito ang iba sa mga yon.
Binabawi ko na ang sinabi ko noong nasa kolehiyo ako, na hindi ko tiningnan ang pag-aaral ng Sociology dahil sa trabaho nito, na lagi ko lang muna iniisip na pag-aralan ang lipunan. Lingid pala sa nalalaman ko, lagi kong iniisip ang magiging trabaho ng nasa disiplina ko. At ang trabahong yun ay talagang gusto ko, kaya naman sabi ko nga nung Biyernes, talagang nagtiis ako ng isang taon na walang trabaho para mapapunta sa ninanais kong karera. Tatlo lang talaga ang gusto kong puntahan, at yun ang tatahakin talaga ng isang Sociology major: pananaliksik (research), community development, at akademya. Naroon ako ngayon sa ikatlo. Sa totoo lang, sulit ang paghihintay ko. Pati na ang pangungutya ng ibang tao, pati na ang pagdududa sa sarili. Hindi sa pagmamayabang kahit kilala akong mayabang, sa tuwing makikita at mararamdaman ko ang pagkamangha ng estudyante sa klase ko dahil sa pagpapaliwanag ko ng teorya, problema sa lipunan at kahit pagbibiro, pawi na ang pagod ko sa pagdidikta ng mga depinisyon at kung anu-ano pa. Paalala itong hindi talaga ako nagkamali.
Siyempre, bukod pa ang sinabi ni sir Batoon nung PTSA na tama naman talaga, kahit saan kami pumunta ay may trabaho kami. Sa isang banda, nakakatuwang isipin na kami na inaaral ang masasamang dulot ng division of labor ay hindi naman talaga napapasailalim nito, dahil sa totoo lang, hangga't may tao, may kakalagyan ang socio. Kung ang isang taga-Nursing ay magiging nurse, accountancy ay magiging accountant, hindi kami ganun, LAMPAS kami sa ganoong sistema.
Tuwang tuwa talaga ako sa batch ng 4th year ngayon. Dati, medyo banas talaga ako sa kanila. Medyo hindi ko talaga sila trip. Hindi ko pa sila masyadong kilala, iilan lang. Si Rap, joker. Si Roxy, mataray. Si Kat na magaling mangatwiran (yak, shifter). Si Harry, maangas noon (maldita na ngayon). Payat pa si Aika dati, crush ko pa sya nun (yiiiii F na F!). Si Ms. Agoncillo, akala ko dati Mr. Si Danzel, akala ko mukhang yosi at volleyball lang. Hindi ko nga kilala noon ang PM nila ngayon na si Claire na pseudo-ex pala ni...
Pasintabi lang po. But in all this bluster, I'm saying this with all the love in the world.
Pero noon yun, 3 years ago. Nakakahiya, ako itong nabigyan ng pagsasanay sa pananaliksik at namuhunan ng malaki sa teorya ng phenomenology, ako pa ang may angas na magkaroon ng bias noon. Sabi kasi nila noon, salitan ang batch na magagaling, kaya ngayon, mali ako. Lalo na noong Setyembre, nung pumunta ako sa TBS nila. Ang pinangangambahan kong pagka-OP (hindi order of preachers) ay hindi halos nangyari. May birtud yata ng pakikisama ang mga yun, kaya naman madali ko silang nakatrabaho bilang biglaang facilitator. Tuwang tuwa ako, isa iyon sa pinakamagagandang TBS na nangyari sa kasaysayan ng USTSS ngayong dekada. At ang PTSA na sinimulan namin noong 4th year kami at freshmen lang sila, maganda din. Sana mas maraming Alumni next time.
Sa mga alumni, lalo na sa mga ka-batch ko, alam kong may ilan sa kanila na ayaw pumunta dahil sa isang dahilan: nahihiya. Nahihiya dahil hindi nila pina-practice ang disiplina namin. Ok lang yan guys, tyagaan lang. Wag lang hayaan ang sariling mapako sa kinalalagyan at masaya tayong lahat. Sa may mga determinasyon, hindi maaaring hindi matupad ang pangarap; nauudyot lang.
Ipinagmamalaki ko talaga ang karera kong hindi naman masyadong malaki ang kita SA NGAYON (ayan ha, caps lock). Ang ikinaangas-angas ko noon sa AB, binawasan ko na muna ngayon kasi wala akong napalang maganda kung hindi ko tatabasan ng kaunti. Kung babanggain mo ang isang istraktura, konkreto man o ideya, malamang-lamang ikaw ang babagsak, masasaktan, mabibigo. Hindi naman ako tinuruan ng ganoon sa Community Development. Ang sabi nga ni Alinsky, work within the system, not against it. Nagpakumbaba ka na, nasa stratehiya ka pa. Two-for-one sale. Kung may ibabagsak, siguraduhing may itatayong panibago mas mainam. Kung hindi, para ka rin lang nang-giyera ng mahinang bansa dahil taliwas sila sa pinaniniwalaan mo. O kaya, rebeldeng walang napala at napatunayan.
Panalo talaga ang limang gabing pagbubuno ko ng final paper ko sa Trends in Social Development sa ilalim ni Ka Puroy noon. Huling semestre ko na noon sa kolehiyo. Tulpok sa keyboard, kutos sa sarili, kamot sa ulo, tulpok uli. Limang gabi ba namang pag-isipan ang tatahakin mong landas pagka-graduate, kundi ka ba naman lumabnaw ang utak at dadgain sa dibdib. Dagdagan pa ang pagbibigay ng isang teorya na susuporta sa kukuhain mong trabaho, tapos isi-synthesis. Matapos ang limang gabi, naipasa ko na ang limang pahinang laman ang Theory of Communicative Action ni Habermas at tatahakin ko sa akademya. Kung susumahin, parang mas maipagmamalaki ko pa iyon kaysa sa thesis ko. Dapat talaga, binibigyan ng ganoong paper ang 4th year taon-taon, para magising sila sa katotohanan at harapin ito.
Sabi ko kasi sa sarili ko noon na gusto ko ring sabihin sa mga dumalo ng PTSA noong Biyernes (kaso hindi ko nga nasabi), kundi ko makikita ang personal na karakter ko sa propesyon ko, ang pagkatao ko, binalewala ko lang ang labing-anim na taon kong pag-aaral sa pormal na edukasyon. Nag-utuan lang kami lahat ng mga nakasama ko sa pamantasan, kaklase ko, propesor, guidance counselor, kaibigang manunulat, seniors at lower batch, librarian at student assistans dahil sa pangungulit ko lagi sa Social Science at Journals section ng Central Library, nina manong guard, mga nagtitinda ng pagkain para kina manong guard (mura lang, P25 busog ka na), mga nagbasa ng sinulat ko sa publication, manggagawa sa Nestle, kabataan at katutubo sa Maligcong, magsasaka sa DRT at Laguna, Aeta sa Zambales, at higit sa lahat, ng sarili ko.
Marami nang nagyayaring utuan sa paligid ko sa dumaang dalawang dekada kong nabubuhay. Ayaw ko nang sumali pa. Sarili ko rin lang ang una't huli kong lolokohin, kaya hindi na lang.
Sa mga nasa larangan ng Sociology, makasama ko sana kayo sa salimuot ng lipunan at pagka-makulay ng ating disiplina. Hangga't mahigpit ang hawak, hangga't hindi bibitaw ang timpi. Ang inyong pagpupursige ay siya ko ring pagpapatuloy.
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Meaning
Admit it. We are not getting any younger.
***
The search for meaning occurs in every sane, and perhaps insane, person. It gives significance to what individuals do, especially those that they have already been doing for some time. As Weber suggests in his Verstehen, meaning takes time. Understanding the complexities of how meaning occurs is one of the cornerstones of comprehending what it is to be human in its most basic, yet most significant context: the world.
***
I have always found it imperative that sociology majors--and every individual who eschews stagnation for that matter--read and practice Mill's Sociological Imagination. It enables the identification of one's own problems into communal, social and global context; that they are not only personal, but is somehow shared by many in other parts of the world. The immediate goal here is a realization of a broader perspective in life. My Art Appreciation professor once told us that those who don't travel usually are narrow-minded, their world only that of their own minute sphere where everything is wishfully revolving around them, ONLY them. I have always been an outgoing person. My mother always laments that I am so "layas", even in college, even though she knows very well that community exposure-immersions are an essential element of my beloved major. These trips made me appreciate the readiness and smallness of similar things, that what binds uniformly all phenomenon is diversity itself. Hence, the inability, or rather the refusal, to appreciate diversity results in a painfully narrow horizon slimmer than that of a liver cancer patient's chance to survive.
***
The human genome is practically 99.9% similar, and that .1% results in the diversity of races all over the world. With that in mind, it is pretty safe to assume that the diverse problems of all humanity fall into just a few fundamental things. And so, losers, on a literal level, are they who spend a lot theirs and other people's time brooding on trivial matters, say, fashion trends, cellular phones and facebook connections.
***
Admit it. We are not getting any younger.
***
I totally agree with Rizal when he chastised his colleagues who were just gambling in Madrid way back 1800s. He said that youth is too precious to be wasted, to be spent on trivial and impractical matters. Boredom, when one is in his/her age of flowering youth, is obscene. It is sickening to know that many youth of today (people below, say 40) spend their time lolling about in the mall, farting around playing online games, pursuing jobs and not careers. What's more appalling is that most of the youth are already and willingly part of the system, of the lack of consciousness, of institutionalized oppression, of this culture of "utuan." This is a result of people not finding meaning in what they do, not knowing what they ought to do, of stagnation that is spreading through osmosis. What's depressing is that these people do not even resist the status quo and are willingly taking part on the perpetration of such abomination.
In a developing country like ours, we cannot afford feckless pluralism in such a scandalous scale, of not having a clear-cut goal of what to achieve as a community. Scattered activities are their appearances: like trash in the streets. There is almost no difference in having a false, conceited dream and not having any at all. Again, a paradox: that the realization of meaning or function is that you cannot attain one without the other. Doing something is not really meaningful if it has no real and beneficial purpose; having a purpose is not enough if it is not meaningful. Empty are the souls who go to work everyday and eventually hate everything and everyone in it because they get no real satisfaction from what they are doing. Its your work, your labor, and it's a very significant portion of human dignity. So if your work is meaningless, what does it say about your life? Do the math.
***
Its your life. When was the last time you did something meaningful for the first time? If its not now, when would you start to find meaning? Death is a possibility that is not only probable, but is sure to come. Anytime. Amidst the gamut of possibilities, we must find meaning, the would-be summary of our lives. Are the things that we do--in our youthful prime--serve a meaningful purpose? Do we really want the things we are doing? If yes, what kind of person are we then?
Life is short. Live it.
Admit it. We are not getting any younger.
***
The search for meaning occurs in every sane, and perhaps insane, person. It gives significance to what individuals do, especially those that they have already been doing for some time. As Weber suggests in his Verstehen, meaning takes time. Understanding the complexities of how meaning occurs is one of the cornerstones of comprehending what it is to be human in its most basic, yet most significant context: the world.
***
I have always found it imperative that sociology majors--and every individual who eschews stagnation for that matter--read and practice Mill's Sociological Imagination. It enables the identification of one's own problems into communal, social and global context; that they are not only personal, but is somehow shared by many in other parts of the world. The immediate goal here is a realization of a broader perspective in life. My Art Appreciation professor once told us that those who don't travel usually are narrow-minded, their world only that of their own minute sphere where everything is wishfully revolving around them, ONLY them. I have always been an outgoing person. My mother always laments that I am so "layas", even in college, even though she knows very well that community exposure-immersions are an essential element of my beloved major. These trips made me appreciate the readiness and smallness of similar things, that what binds uniformly all phenomenon is diversity itself. Hence, the inability, or rather the refusal, to appreciate diversity results in a painfully narrow horizon slimmer than that of a liver cancer patient's chance to survive.
***
The human genome is practically 99.9% similar, and that .1% results in the diversity of races all over the world. With that in mind, it is pretty safe to assume that the diverse problems of all humanity fall into just a few fundamental things. And so, losers, on a literal level, are they who spend a lot theirs and other people's time brooding on trivial matters, say, fashion trends, cellular phones and facebook connections.
***
Admit it. We are not getting any younger.
***
I totally agree with Rizal when he chastised his colleagues who were just gambling in Madrid way back 1800s. He said that youth is too precious to be wasted, to be spent on trivial and impractical matters. Boredom, when one is in his/her age of flowering youth, is obscene. It is sickening to know that many youth of today (people below, say 40) spend their time lolling about in the mall, farting around playing online games, pursuing jobs and not careers. What's more appalling is that most of the youth are already and willingly part of the system, of the lack of consciousness, of institutionalized oppression, of this culture of "utuan." This is a result of people not finding meaning in what they do, not knowing what they ought to do, of stagnation that is spreading through osmosis. What's depressing is that these people do not even resist the status quo and are willingly taking part on the perpetration of such abomination.
In a developing country like ours, we cannot afford feckless pluralism in such a scandalous scale, of not having a clear-cut goal of what to achieve as a community. Scattered activities are their appearances: like trash in the streets. There is almost no difference in having a false, conceited dream and not having any at all. Again, a paradox: that the realization of meaning or function is that you cannot attain one without the other. Doing something is not really meaningful if it has no real and beneficial purpose; having a purpose is not enough if it is not meaningful. Empty are the souls who go to work everyday and eventually hate everything and everyone in it because they get no real satisfaction from what they are doing. Its your work, your labor, and it's a very significant portion of human dignity. So if your work is meaningless, what does it say about your life? Do the math.
***
Its your life. When was the last time you did something meaningful for the first time? If its not now, when would you start to find meaning? Death is a possibility that is not only probable, but is sure to come. Anytime. Amidst the gamut of possibilities, we must find meaning, the would-be summary of our lives. Are the things that we do--in our youthful prime--serve a meaningful purpose? Do we really want the things we are doing? If yes, what kind of person are we then?
Life is short. Live it.
Admit it. We are not getting any younger.
Saturday, September 26, 2009
Yawning Gap
I really don't know what happened.
Far is that day in August when, after years of not being able to talk to each other, we enjoyed a meal together, catching up like we haven't seen each other twice as much as we really didn't. After that, the agreement a month later.
What I really do not understand is why someone would back out of an agreement wherein there would be no risk to that person, much less an investment. Worse, flaking out, unannounced to an agreement--a promise--is one of the most unethical thing a sane person would do to a friend.
I really believe that suspending, if not cutting, communication abruptly with another person amidst a small conflict is waaaaay off the line. One terrible thing really comes from that, the conflict escalates.
I really don't know what happened.
I don't know why since that meal at that fast food chain, you disappeared. It's still a puzzle for me whether you faded away slowly, like the ceasing early morning fog against the imposing sun, or just disappeared just like the same sun on an eclipse, warranting not only awe, but scorn. Scorn caused by such a mystery a sane person would not dare think about it, knowing all too well that its a waste of time.
People usually tell me that my pride's off the roof, but I respond with determined indignation, stating that this is only using my common sense. When you want different results, you obviously should do things differently, because doing the same deed would only produce similar off-shoots. And that is what I am doing. Knowing well enough that those insane (yes, they are) mood swings repeatedly and successfully caught me off guard since high school, I am not reacting to them the same way I did before: asking you what's the matter, saying sorry even if I'm clueless if I did something wrong, showing concern even if its not my problem anymore, but yours, as obvious as the floods in Manila earlier. And so I kept quiet, because in all honesty, like I always am to you, I'm tired. And modesty aside, I am true of heart.
I really don't know what happened.
What surprised and dismayed me is after all this time--a year, to be exact--you never talked to me. No message in any form, medium, venue. No excuses given (like you always do), much less a reason, for flaking on me that time. Our friends told me some things about you by then, but I just wish you tell that to my face, knowing all too well that they're not involved in this. They said you were in deep shit, and I also just hope you'd tell me that, because after all, we are/were friends by then. They told me "maybe this, maybe that", but really I'm fed up with maybes, with almost everything you do definitive of nothing but your indecisiveness, your decisions changing as skin cells are replaced, unabatedly.
Nobody, and that subset includes me, likes things hanging like this. It sure is a little bit exciting, even fun, when some things hang for only a short time, say, a dunk replay. But when when time passes by, you can't help thinking that that something you thought was hanging maybe isn't there anymore. And what's more inevitably appalling is that maybe it wasn't there hanging in the first place. That only you yourself thought it was, and what you did was painfully less than hopeful, but only wishful thinking. Nobody, except some Taoist hermits up the Szechuan mountains, like things hanging like this. Because when these things happen, these things break your heart.
I really don't know what happened.
I mean, I do know, more or less. I have pieces of the puzzle all together so I have the overall picture. Everybody lies, and so I'm concentrating on things that cannot lie. What I'm hoping for is that something happened beyond that, something more significant, meaningful. And after a year, I was hoping it would surface, since meaning takes considerable time. In all this bluster, I am believing that what happened, or lack thereof, was more meaningful than it appears to be. I take solace in that thought. And I really hope that I am right, because the only alternative is: what came to pass is like cheap crackers, painfully and plainly meaningless.
I don't know if I did something that hurt you, but that's so improbable, since it is you who walked away. But as I said, I'm tired of figuring you out. This time, if its not more productive, at least it's less painful figuring out what I really think rather than imploring what you are. There's hesitation finding out answers because lately when I do, the ones that turn up are more appalling and ridiculous than I expected--a bear tearing up a hive only to find that its full of wasps, not honeys and bees.
Honestly, I'm tired. Modesty aside, I am true of heart.
Far is that day in August when, after years of not being able to talk to each other, we enjoyed a meal together, catching up like we haven't seen each other twice as much as we really didn't. After that, the agreement a month later.
What I really do not understand is why someone would back out of an agreement wherein there would be no risk to that person, much less an investment. Worse, flaking out, unannounced to an agreement--a promise--is one of the most unethical thing a sane person would do to a friend.
I really believe that suspending, if not cutting, communication abruptly with another person amidst a small conflict is waaaaay off the line. One terrible thing really comes from that, the conflict escalates.
I really don't know what happened.
I don't know why since that meal at that fast food chain, you disappeared. It's still a puzzle for me whether you faded away slowly, like the ceasing early morning fog against the imposing sun, or just disappeared just like the same sun on an eclipse, warranting not only awe, but scorn. Scorn caused by such a mystery a sane person would not dare think about it, knowing all too well that its a waste of time.
People usually tell me that my pride's off the roof, but I respond with determined indignation, stating that this is only using my common sense. When you want different results, you obviously should do things differently, because doing the same deed would only produce similar off-shoots. And that is what I am doing. Knowing well enough that those insane (yes, they are) mood swings repeatedly and successfully caught me off guard since high school, I am not reacting to them the same way I did before: asking you what's the matter, saying sorry even if I'm clueless if I did something wrong, showing concern even if its not my problem anymore, but yours, as obvious as the floods in Manila earlier. And so I kept quiet, because in all honesty, like I always am to you, I'm tired. And modesty aside, I am true of heart.
I really don't know what happened.
What surprised and dismayed me is after all this time--a year, to be exact--you never talked to me. No message in any form, medium, venue. No excuses given (like you always do), much less a reason, for flaking on me that time. Our friends told me some things about you by then, but I just wish you tell that to my face, knowing all too well that they're not involved in this. They said you were in deep shit, and I also just hope you'd tell me that, because after all, we are/were friends by then. They told me "maybe this, maybe that", but really I'm fed up with maybes, with almost everything you do definitive of nothing but your indecisiveness, your decisions changing as skin cells are replaced, unabatedly.
Nobody, and that subset includes me, likes things hanging like this. It sure is a little bit exciting, even fun, when some things hang for only a short time, say, a dunk replay. But when when time passes by, you can't help thinking that that something you thought was hanging maybe isn't there anymore. And what's more inevitably appalling is that maybe it wasn't there hanging in the first place. That only you yourself thought it was, and what you did was painfully less than hopeful, but only wishful thinking. Nobody, except some Taoist hermits up the Szechuan mountains, like things hanging like this. Because when these things happen, these things break your heart.
I really don't know what happened.
I mean, I do know, more or less. I have pieces of the puzzle all together so I have the overall picture. Everybody lies, and so I'm concentrating on things that cannot lie. What I'm hoping for is that something happened beyond that, something more significant, meaningful. And after a year, I was hoping it would surface, since meaning takes considerable time. In all this bluster, I am believing that what happened, or lack thereof, was more meaningful than it appears to be. I take solace in that thought. And I really hope that I am right, because the only alternative is: what came to pass is like cheap crackers, painfully and plainly meaningless.
I don't know if I did something that hurt you, but that's so improbable, since it is you who walked away. But as I said, I'm tired of figuring you out. This time, if its not more productive, at least it's less painful figuring out what I really think rather than imploring what you are. There's hesitation finding out answers because lately when I do, the ones that turn up are more appalling and ridiculous than I expected--a bear tearing up a hive only to find that its full of wasps, not honeys and bees.
Honestly, I'm tired. Modesty aside, I am true of heart.
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
What Keeps Me Going
I haven't been blogging for weeks now, and because of what happened earlier in school I thought would be worth mentioning here, here I am creating this post.
Most of you know that my salary is not at par with my needs, as I am tax-exempt from my profession of being a college instructor. Me still teaching here in Quezon is kinda far fetched, but still some things keep me going, and here is a short list.
***
1.) The respect. Even if the owner of the school or that lying bitch in Malacañang would be talking to me, they'll still be calling me "sir."
2.) It's fun being with young people, amidst the cacophony of stupidity and insecurity, I still find some students whom to challenge their beliefs with mine.
3.) Modesty aside, the awe that students express (mouths agape) when you pull of a kick ass explanation for something mundane or previously thought as insignificant. Its a good reminder of how good you are--and the weight loss and neurodermatitis you had to achieve that.
4.) Students telling you how tiresome the 3-hour subject can be at siesta hours but you can still tell some jokes to lighten the mood up.
5.) Students telling you how weird you are, in a good way, and they love it.
6.) Cute teenage girls saying "Nakakahiya namang tumabi kay sir, ang bango kasi!" out loud. Nuff said, haha.
7.) The same students that would surprise you by saying "Ayan sir, mabango na ako" after greetings during dismissal.
8.) Whole classes wanting to extend the class, even though its already dismissal time, and if possible via drinking sessions, because of your sociological and philosophical outpourings about religion and love life.
9.) The feeling that whatever success those young people you teach would achieve in later years, in whatever aspect, you somehow contributed to it.
10.) That feeling and knowledge that you are somehow at the same level, however trivial or ephemereal, with those professors you are idolizing in college. And that they call you "sir."
:-)
Most of you know that my salary is not at par with my needs, as I am tax-exempt from my profession of being a college instructor. Me still teaching here in Quezon is kinda far fetched, but still some things keep me going, and here is a short list.
***
1.) The respect. Even if the owner of the school or that lying bitch in Malacañang would be talking to me, they'll still be calling me "sir."
2.) It's fun being with young people, amidst the cacophony of stupidity and insecurity, I still find some students whom to challenge their beliefs with mine.
3.) Modesty aside, the awe that students express (mouths agape) when you pull of a kick ass explanation for something mundane or previously thought as insignificant. Its a good reminder of how good you are--and the weight loss and neurodermatitis you had to achieve that.
4.) Students telling you how tiresome the 3-hour subject can be at siesta hours but you can still tell some jokes to lighten the mood up.
5.) Students telling you how weird you are, in a good way, and they love it.
6.) Cute teenage girls saying "Nakakahiya namang tumabi kay sir, ang bango kasi!" out loud. Nuff said, haha.
7.) The same students that would surprise you by saying "Ayan sir, mabango na ako" after greetings during dismissal.
8.) Whole classes wanting to extend the class, even though its already dismissal time, and if possible via drinking sessions, because of your sociological and philosophical outpourings about religion and love life.
9.) The feeling that whatever success those young people you teach would achieve in later years, in whatever aspect, you somehow contributed to it.
10.) That feeling and knowledge that you are somehow at the same level, however trivial or ephemereal, with those professors you are idolizing in college. And that they call you "sir."
:-)
Monday, May 18, 2009
To Reiterate Identity and Attraction
When I woke up this morning, after thinking of heating two large cups of leftover coffees last night, l browsed my inbox and read something appallingly stupid, or stupidly appalling. A student-friend of mine forwarded a text message and it goes a little something like this:
Types of boyfriends:
[Unsettling and idiotic part deleted for the sake of sanity and purity of my blog and all]
Forward this to your friends to give their boyfriend a lesson (something to this effect).
Reflexively, I deleted the darn message. For those of you who know me well enough, I really find stupidity offensive, and the last thing that I want to see after waking up with our pitbull puppy beside me is some smart-ass, utterly stupid quote implying their backward view of how non-marital romantic relationships should go.
The content of the message was a list of 5 offenses that boyfriends allegedly commit on a usual basis. The author of that text was obviously painfully preoccupied with the task of making her boyfriend's life miserable by making herself the guy's ONLY preoccupation. This is not a reality check, this is truth revealed: Unless you're a respirator, dialysis machine or a pacemaker, YOU CANNOT BE THE FREAKING LIFE OF SOMEONE ELSE. When I was in elementary, I watched this movie with Goofy and his teenage son. As you all know, teenagers almost always antagonize their parents for a myriad of things. The enlightening conversation was:
Son: Can't you see, Dad? I have my own life now!
Goofy: I know! I just want to be a part of it. [Silence ensued]
To those people who think that they are the life of their significant other vice-versa, get lost. If what you believe and what you are doing implies that your life is not your own, or God's, you might as well inject concentrated potassium chloride into your jugular vein. Go hurl yourself to the mouth of mount Krakatoa and burn, after transferring half of your property to me, and half to charity. You're wasting good, water, air, space. You're wasting not only your time, but other people's too, by dragging them into your black hole of low self esteem instead of letting them live their lives fruitfully, free from your pathetic excuse of a life. Get a life, or else be eaten by crows.
When your boyfriend doesn't show up to your sudden and unnanounced date, with you assuming that he's an on-call doctor when it comes to you, which he is not, and instead plays basketball with his peers, do not get angry. You have every right to get annoyed, but not nagging. You are not his mother. He was certain that this day he's free and decides to come to that game with his friends, knowing all too well that his social circle is diminishing unabatedly because of YOU. So he's giving himself and his friends a break, to catch up with one another, to play ball, to be with them. Because after all, they are his friends, his support system, and they were there, presumably a decade ago, before you got into the picture. Go get a life.
When he's texting with another girl, it might be that, duh, he's got a cellphone and enough credit. It doesn't mean that he's flirting, it might be that someone is flirting with him, but before you are certain that he's reciprocating it, do not flood the Yangtze with your tears. Come to think of it, you haven't made the wrong choice, because when someone is trying to flirt with him, its a validation that he is indeed a fun guy to be with. Or just plain good-looking. You said you trust him, right? So show it. Go get a life.
When someone tells you that you are their life, back off and leave that person. Because that entails that unreasonable demands would ensue, demands that are uncalled for, dumbfounding, vicious and inhuman. Love is a wonderful and meaningful thing, and meaning is derived from wanting something even if you don't need it. And by this I mean significant wanting, not capricious ones.
Love is liberating, not restrictive. Rid yourself of old conventions about such things and seek and experience the real deal.
Types of boyfriends:
[Unsettling and idiotic part deleted for the sake of sanity and purity of my blog and all]
Forward this to your friends to give their boyfriend a lesson (something to this effect).
Reflexively, I deleted the darn message. For those of you who know me well enough, I really find stupidity offensive, and the last thing that I want to see after waking up with our pitbull puppy beside me is some smart-ass, utterly stupid quote implying their backward view of how non-marital romantic relationships should go.
The content of the message was a list of 5 offenses that boyfriends allegedly commit on a usual basis. The author of that text was obviously painfully preoccupied with the task of making her boyfriend's life miserable by making herself the guy's ONLY preoccupation. This is not a reality check, this is truth revealed: Unless you're a respirator, dialysis machine or a pacemaker, YOU CANNOT BE THE FREAKING LIFE OF SOMEONE ELSE. When I was in elementary, I watched this movie with Goofy and his teenage son. As you all know, teenagers almost always antagonize their parents for a myriad of things. The enlightening conversation was:
Son: Can't you see, Dad? I have my own life now!
Goofy: I know! I just want to be a part of it. [Silence ensued]
To those people who think that they are the life of their significant other vice-versa, get lost. If what you believe and what you are doing implies that your life is not your own, or God's, you might as well inject concentrated potassium chloride into your jugular vein. Go hurl yourself to the mouth of mount Krakatoa and burn, after transferring half of your property to me, and half to charity. You're wasting good, water, air, space. You're wasting not only your time, but other people's too, by dragging them into your black hole of low self esteem instead of letting them live their lives fruitfully, free from your pathetic excuse of a life. Get a life, or else be eaten by crows.
When your boyfriend doesn't show up to your sudden and unnanounced date, with you assuming that he's an on-call doctor when it comes to you, which he is not, and instead plays basketball with his peers, do not get angry. You have every right to get annoyed, but not nagging. You are not his mother. He was certain that this day he's free and decides to come to that game with his friends, knowing all too well that his social circle is diminishing unabatedly because of YOU. So he's giving himself and his friends a break, to catch up with one another, to play ball, to be with them. Because after all, they are his friends, his support system, and they were there, presumably a decade ago, before you got into the picture. Go get a life.
When he's texting with another girl, it might be that, duh, he's got a cellphone and enough credit. It doesn't mean that he's flirting, it might be that someone is flirting with him, but before you are certain that he's reciprocating it, do not flood the Yangtze with your tears. Come to think of it, you haven't made the wrong choice, because when someone is trying to flirt with him, its a validation that he is indeed a fun guy to be with. Or just plain good-looking. You said you trust him, right? So show it. Go get a life.
When someone tells you that you are their life, back off and leave that person. Because that entails that unreasonable demands would ensue, demands that are uncalled for, dumbfounding, vicious and inhuman. Love is a wonderful and meaningful thing, and meaning is derived from wanting something even if you don't need it. And by this I mean significant wanting, not capricious ones.
Love is liberating, not restrictive. Rid yourself of old conventions about such things and seek and experience the real deal.
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