While I was nearing our house from school Thursday last week, I saw a girl standing outside our gate. I peeked over her umbrella and saw her face and was surprised that she's a student of mine. I invited her over to our apartment because it was nearing noon and the sun was power-tripping again. After settling down on the sofa, I asked her what on earth is she doing there and she told me our guy neighbor is her "bestfriend" and they had a fight (I didn't believe that they're only that). She seemed to be so into him that she immediately replaced his SIM card because of what happened which I didn't cared to explore anyway because I was so sure of its LAMENESS.
Before I slept later that night, I had an verifying epiphany while drinking my tea.
IF YOU WANT YOUR ROMANTIC DEVOTION TO ANOTHER PERSON BE RECIPROCATED AND MAKE YOU HAPPY, DEVOTE MORE TIME TO YOURSELF.
Healthy people (personality-wise) are more attracted and are more in love with someone who has a concrete identity, who has things really going on with one's life. Ergo, those who are, by themselves, sufficient enough and "complete".
It's better of someone would be with you not because that person needs you, but because that person WANTS to be with you.
I've seen countless people who devote their whole selves to the point that they'd leave their friends for that special someone and get dumped. It shows NEEDINESS, superficial neediness.
Needs that aren't really there. The need to be hugged. The need to be complimented. The need to be stroked with kindness every minute everyday. The need to have sex. The need to be given gifts (which usually are impractical and useLESS ones). The need to be given flowers (the plant's vagina). The need to have someone to ask them "kumain ka na?" or "nakauwi ka na?" The need to be taken care of. The need to have a relationship, no matter what. The need to be needed.
Have you ever experienced of quarelling or fighting with someone special (and its his fault) and the reconciliation is lubricated by him buying you flowers? His fault magically seems to disappear. Props like gifts are sweeter, but practical things are more sincere. Have you ever forgotten everything she did because of some hug or nibbling on your ear? It sucks.
Want a healthy relationship with a healthy partner? Get a LIFE! There's tons to talk about, enjoy, do and experience with people who have their own lives. Improving yourself for another person is LAME, especially if it's because of romance. Improve yourself because you want to, for yourself is the first and last one to appreciate that. Not him. Not her. Not even God. Not being needy makes someone wanted, as paradoxical or ironic as it may sound.
Go fix yourself before you sell your wares to the dating pool. Go fix yourself because you want to, not because of that someone. Because if that someone leaves, someone would be sprawled on the floor like a 10-foot Uno Stacko that just collapsed.
Thursday, July 17, 2008
The Hierophant
You are The Hierophant
Divine Wisdom. Manifestation. Explanation. Teaching.
All things relating to education, patience, help from superiors.The Hierophant is often considered to be a Guardian Angel.
The Hierophant's purpose is to bring the spiritual down to Earth. Where the High Priestess between her two pillars deals with realms beyond this Earth, the Hierophant (or High Priest) deals with worldly problems. He is well suited to do this because he strives to create harmony and peace in the midst of a crisis. The Hierophant's only problem is that he can be stubborn and hidebound. At his best, he is wise and soothing, at his worst, he is an unbending traditionalist.
What Tarot Card are You?
Take the Test to Find Out.
Monday, July 14, 2008
Stupid Assumptions
I was checking my students' research papers earlier and 7 of them had the same copies of one paper. They cheated, assuming that I won't be reading their papers. Ergo, 0, not 50, not 70 but 0. Then I read Joyce's blog and her friends opposition to what I said. Then I started thinking of some stupid assumptions by many people, which I have realized time and time again through testing it via ethnomethodological breaching (If you want, you can check that out by searching ethnomethodology's breaching experiments in the internet).
1.) Being NICE doesn't equal being good, just like speaking po and opo doesn't equal respect.
2.) The best things in life, contrary to popular and cliche-ish quotes, ain't for free. You get them in exchange for other very significant things, most of which we don't notice that we are clinging onto it.
3.) People who think that they should avoid conflict as much as possible must be stabbed in the eye. They have it coming always because of avoiding it.
4.) Don't trust the villagers, trust those who are in the same path as you are, those who are impartial to what you are experiencing. You don't serve sugar-coated sugar-flavored sugar balls to kids who have bad teeth. Hindi ka maglalagay ng asin sa patis. Don't confuse what's needed with what's being wanted. You'd be surprised to know that the opinion of people who won't really care really matter.
5.) Consenting DOES NOT equal understanding. People who readily say "naiintindihan kita" really don't unless they probe you.
6.) Just Being Yourself won't get you anywhere. And you're stupid to think that this would mean that you have to pretend.
7.) Trust, respect and other similar things must be earned. Wanting to believe the best in people ain't gonna make it true.
8.) When you hurt someone, it doesn't mean that you've done something wrong. It means there IS something wrong and you just found it. Only then can you know what's the right thing to do.
9.) "Depende sa tao yan" is one of the lamest excuse for not taking responsibility and thinking about what you do. There is no such thing as the "my world, your world", only one world exists (and dont bring me that alternate world stuff because it ain't gonna matter here and I don't care about it).
10.) "Kung kayo talaga, kayo talaga" is bull, and is the lamest excuse I could think of at the moment for not taking responsibility and using your God-given faculties to do something constructive.
11.) People are stupid. By that, you could see how they outgrow it and become wise.
12.) Understanding a situation without doing anything about it is useless. Acceptance therefore is genuine if you're working your ass off to get over it
13.) Unless you're in a coma, don't leave everything to God. He's already so busy with all prayers, complaints, requests and even curses. That's why He gave you the ability to think, which really would make you smart or smarter.
14.) Perseverance doesn't mean worthiness.
15.) Making up excuses is for stupid people and cowards, taking up responsibility is for smart ones. When people won't stand up to do what's required, what's right, trouble escalates to the benefit of no one.
As Dr. House said, "You can think I'm wrong, but that's no reason to stop thinking."
1.) Being NICE doesn't equal being good, just like speaking po and opo doesn't equal respect.
2.) The best things in life, contrary to popular and cliche-ish quotes, ain't for free. You get them in exchange for other very significant things, most of which we don't notice that we are clinging onto it.
3.) People who think that they should avoid conflict as much as possible must be stabbed in the eye. They have it coming always because of avoiding it.
4.) Don't trust the villagers, trust those who are in the same path as you are, those who are impartial to what you are experiencing. You don't serve sugar-coated sugar-flavored sugar balls to kids who have bad teeth. Hindi ka maglalagay ng asin sa patis. Don't confuse what's needed with what's being wanted. You'd be surprised to know that the opinion of people who won't really care really matter.
5.) Consenting DOES NOT equal understanding. People who readily say "naiintindihan kita" really don't unless they probe you.
6.) Just Being Yourself won't get you anywhere. And you're stupid to think that this would mean that you have to pretend.
7.) Trust, respect and other similar things must be earned. Wanting to believe the best in people ain't gonna make it true.
8.) When you hurt someone, it doesn't mean that you've done something wrong. It means there IS something wrong and you just found it. Only then can you know what's the right thing to do.
9.) "Depende sa tao yan" is one of the lamest excuse for not taking responsibility and thinking about what you do. There is no such thing as the "my world, your world", only one world exists (and dont bring me that alternate world stuff because it ain't gonna matter here and I don't care about it).
10.) "Kung kayo talaga, kayo talaga" is bull, and is the lamest excuse I could think of at the moment for not taking responsibility and using your God-given faculties to do something constructive.
11.) People are stupid. By that, you could see how they outgrow it and become wise.
12.) Understanding a situation without doing anything about it is useless. Acceptance therefore is genuine if you're working your ass off to get over it
13.) Unless you're in a coma, don't leave everything to God. He's already so busy with all prayers, complaints, requests and even curses. That's why He gave you the ability to think, which really would make you smart or smarter.
14.) Perseverance doesn't mean worthiness.
15.) Making up excuses is for stupid people and cowards, taking up responsibility is for smart ones. When people won't stand up to do what's required, what's right, trouble escalates to the benefit of no one.
As Dr. House said, "You can think I'm wrong, but that's no reason to stop thinking."
Friday, June 13, 2008
Ikaw
Oo, ikaw nga. Ikaw na tinatawag kong kasali sa Lindsay Lohan Generation.
Ikaw na nasasakop ng karaniwang salitang “kabataan”, ikaw na nakaasa pa rin sa magulang at tinatamasa ang mga karaniwang kumakalupkop sa walang saysay. Sasabihin ko ito sa iyo: kaiba ang likás sa normal. Hindi ito ang kaligayahan. Nagkakamali ka, kaya’t tumungo ka paminsan-minsan at huwag laging tingala at baka ka matisod.
Mag-isip ka kung ano talaga ang iyong nais, kung gusto mo ba talaga ito o pinahihintulutan mo lang ang dikta ng iba. At huwag mong ipagmamalaki na ito talaga ang gusto mo dahil kadalasan, hindi mo alam ang iyong sinasabi. Isip ang gamit sa pag-iisip at hindi pangarap.
Nag-aaral ka para matuto, hindi upang mag-trabaho.
At wala kang dahilan para hindi mag-aral ng mabuti kung pinapag-aral ka naman. Madali lang naman ang buhay, bawat karapatan ay may katapat na tungkulin. Kung karapatan mong mag-aral, tungkulin mong itaya ang buhay mo rito. Suportado ka ng mga sumusuporta sa ‘yo, kaya dapat lang na mag-aral ka ng maigi, di lang sa silid-aralan kundi pati sa labas. Iharap mo sa akin ang isang taong walang pakialam sa kaalaman at hindi lang salita ko ang tatarak sa kanyang tenga.
Hindi lahat ng pagtatakda ay nakasisiil.
Ikaw ang pinaka-masagana sa panahon at kakayahan, huwag mo itong tiimin sa kahunghangan ng media. Huwag na huwag mo ring ipagkakamali ang pahintulot sa pagkakaunawa at ang mabait sa mabuti. Tandaang inaakit tayo ng kagandahan palihis sa daan ng katotohanan. Kung sinasabi mong wala kang pakialam sa sinasabi ng iba, panindigan mo ito at huwag kang maki-uso. Nagkakasala ang sinumang nakayapos sa ilusyon ng sariling pagkakakilanlan. Hindi ikaw ang iyong kabuuan.
Ikaw na nasasakop ng karaniwang salitang “kabataan”, ikaw na nakaasa pa rin sa magulang at tinatamasa ang mga karaniwang kumakalupkop sa walang saysay. Sasabihin ko ito sa iyo: kaiba ang likás sa normal. Hindi ito ang kaligayahan. Nagkakamali ka, kaya’t tumungo ka paminsan-minsan at huwag laging tingala at baka ka matisod.
Mag-isip ka kung ano talaga ang iyong nais, kung gusto mo ba talaga ito o pinahihintulutan mo lang ang dikta ng iba. At huwag mong ipagmamalaki na ito talaga ang gusto mo dahil kadalasan, hindi mo alam ang iyong sinasabi. Isip ang gamit sa pag-iisip at hindi pangarap.
Nag-aaral ka para matuto, hindi upang mag-trabaho.
At wala kang dahilan para hindi mag-aral ng mabuti kung pinapag-aral ka naman. Madali lang naman ang buhay, bawat karapatan ay may katapat na tungkulin. Kung karapatan mong mag-aral, tungkulin mong itaya ang buhay mo rito. Suportado ka ng mga sumusuporta sa ‘yo, kaya dapat lang na mag-aral ka ng maigi, di lang sa silid-aralan kundi pati sa labas. Iharap mo sa akin ang isang taong walang pakialam sa kaalaman at hindi lang salita ko ang tatarak sa kanyang tenga.
Hindi lahat ng pagtatakda ay nakasisiil.
Ikaw ang pinaka-masagana sa panahon at kakayahan, huwag mo itong tiimin sa kahunghangan ng media. Huwag na huwag mo ring ipagkakamali ang pahintulot sa pagkakaunawa at ang mabait sa mabuti. Tandaang inaakit tayo ng kagandahan palihis sa daan ng katotohanan. Kung sinasabi mong wala kang pakialam sa sinasabi ng iba, panindigan mo ito at huwag kang maki-uso. Nagkakasala ang sinumang nakayapos sa ilusyon ng sariling pagkakakilanlan. Hindi ikaw ang iyong kabuuan.
Sunday, June 8, 2008
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Friday, May 9, 2008
Refresher, hahaha!
Not too much but… I think it’s a li’l refresher for me. Sorry about the emoricon stuff, can’t put it in the MS WORD.
Zaldy: im back
Girl: oie
Zaldy: what gawa mu?
Girl: chat
Girl kaw?
Girl: san k?
Girl: ?
Zaldy: d2 aq quezon
Girl: layo ah
Girl: bakasyon?
Zaldy: ngeeee
Zaldy: tagarito kaya aq
Zaldy: J
Zaldy: ikaw {insert name} ha
Zaldy: nalilimutan mo
Girl: eh db nsa pasay k nkaraan?
Girl: taguig?
Zaldy: taguig
Zaldy: e di ba I was on a jobhunt then?
Zaldy: kaya aq nandun that time
Girl: anu nngyri?
Zaldy: aun
Zaldy: wala pa
Zaldy: pero may teaching demo ako next week
Girl: mgturo ka?
Zaldy: yup
Zaldy: d2
Girl: bkt d nlng sa ab?
Zaldy: st. anne college
Zaldy: mahigpit kasi ang MA policy sa UST ngaun e
Girl: y?
Zaldy: ewan q
Zaldy: dapat nasa thesis writing ka na ng MA mo
Girl: gnun
Girl: bkt d ka mgMA
Zaldy: walang pang-MA eh
Zaldy: hehe
Zaldy: cguro mga 3 years pa, UST na aq
Girl: gnun
Girl: haha
Girl: sayang nmn
Zaldy: mtgl na ung MA policy na un
Zaldy: 3rd year pa aq
Girl: gnun. k lng yan mgkjob k dn
Zaldy: tnx
Zaldy: teka...
Zaldy: bat ndi ka na nga pala sumagot sa akin last time?
Girl: kelan?
Zaldy: diba dapat may lakad tau?
Zaldy: hehe
Zaldy: :-?
Girl: oo nga noh
Girl: til now d pko nkpgpapic
Girl: haha
Girl: san nga b mlapit un?
Zaldy: victory liner there at españa
Zaldy: pero wala bang malapit sa school nyo?
Girl: ala eh
Girl: gusto ko mganda tlg
Girl: tpat ng uste
Zaldy: haha
Zaldy: ok ok
Zaldy: gusto mo tlg maganda ha?
Girl: cyempre
Zaldy: pwede na yang pic mo d2 sa YM
Zaldy: hehe
Girl: gnun
Girl: hahaha
Girl: kulet
Zaldy: alin?
Zaldy: ung pic?
Zaldy: sure u're not talking about that ryt?
Girl: kaw mkulet
Girl: hahaha
Zaldy: ako?
Zaldy: haha
Girl: opo
Zaldy: I really am, right?
Zaldy: kaw nmn parang ndi mo ko naging kaklase?
Zaldy: *kaklase
Girl: hahahaha
Zaldy: haha
Zaldy: I like it
Zaldy: ur pic, that is
Zaldy: J
Girl: alin?
Girl: ung pic sa ym now?
Zaldy: yup
Girl: pretty ksama ko noh?
Zaldy: yup
Zaldy: cnu xa?
Girl: haha
Girl: knina lng yan eh
Girl: clasm8 ko
Zaldy: aaah..
Zaldy: she's taller, yes, but...
Zaldy: nevermind
Girl: gnun
Girl: hahaha
Zaldy: san naman kau galing nyan at pareho pa kau ng suot?
Zaldy: J
Girl: haha
Girl: dto house knina
Zaldy: aaahh
Zaldy: anu meron?
Girl: ala
Girl: haha
Girl: pictorial lng
Zaldy: pictorial huh?
Zaldy: anung pictorial nmn?
Girl: ala
Girl: haha
Girl: pacute lng
Zaldy: pacute?
Zaldy: di na kau nagsawa?
Zaldy: haha
Girl: haha
Girl: d nmn
Girl: haha
Zaldy: san ka ngaun?
Girl: bhay po…
Girl: kaw?
Zaldy: bahay ng katropa ko
Girl: ah
Zaldy: 2log na cla eh, ako nlng ang gcng
Zaldy: do u have a webcam?
Girl: wla eh
Girl: kaw?
Zaldy: same
Zaldy: haha
Girl: bkt d kpa 2log?
Zaldy: may binabasa ako e
Girl: ano?
Zaldy: article about art
Girl: ah
Zaldy: ikaw {girl’s name}, ano nmn pinagkakaabalahan mo ngaung gabi?
Girl: chat lng
Girl: d pko mka2log eh
Zaldy: too bad wala kang web cam
Zaldy: haha
Zaldy: ano nmn iniicp mo at di ka maka2log?
Girl: ala nman
Zaldy: masama yan, it'll ruin ur beauty rest
Zaldy: J
Girl: hahaha
Girl: d rn
Girl: ala ko pasok tom
Zaldy: sabagay..
Zaldy: vacation kn
Zaldy: lots of time
Zaldy: doing anything
Zaldy: like, say, pagpapacute na pictorial
Girl: hahaha
Zaldy: pero...
Zaldy: kung ganyan din lang ang mga result ng pacute pictorial nyo.
Zaldy: then its worthwhile
Zaldy: J
Girl: gnun
Girl: *blush emoticon*
Zaldy: oh that's too bad
Zaldy: can't see that blush right now, personally...
Girl: gnun
Girl: mkkta mo dn
Zaldy: really?
Zaldy: omg
Girl: haha
Zaldy: can't wait for that
Zaldy: haha
Zaldy: ay anu ba tong cnsabi ko, nakakahiya...
Girl: sus
Zaldy: I cant even talk to you ryt now!
Girl: haha
Zaldy: J
Zaldy: ang tagal tagal na natin hindi nagkikita eh bumabanat aq ng ganito...
Girl: oo nga
Girl: haha
Girl: ala nb kyo gf mo?
Zaldy: ikaw kasi eh
Zaldy: this is all your fault
Girl: y?
Zaldy: you can't do this to me, I'm just a guy you know...
Zaldy: bigla ko 2loy naalala ung pic mo dati sa YM..
Girl: aling pic?
Zaldy: the one with your tongue out, ung provocative
Zaldy: J *wink emoticon*
Girl: y?
Girl: haha
Zaldy: wala nmn
Zaldy: I like it eh
Girl: haha
Girl: gnun
Zaldy: yup
Zaldy: but I guess I can't tell you that huh?
Zaldy: coz
Zaldy: u know...
Girl: y nmn?
Zaldy: tagal na antin ndi nagkikita...
Zaldy: u could've changed and everything..
Zaldy: I mean, yes, you look hotter now but that's common y'know
Girl: hahaha
Girl: gnun
Girl: tnx po
Zaldy: sure sure
Zaldy: naaah..
Zaldy: I was just thinking out loud...
Girl: kw tlga
Girl: d ka pa dn ngbgo
Girl: sweet kpa dn tlga
Zaldy: thanks...
Zaldy: but…
Zaldy: I have to disqualify myself on that
Zaldy: ako? sweet?
Zaldy: don't think so...
Girl: bkt nmn?
Zaldy: hot, pwede pa
Zaldy: J
Girl: hahahaha
Zaldy: anyway..
Zaldy: me? sweet?
Zaldy: I wonder what made you say that...
Girl: sweet ka nmn tlg before pa
Zaldy: tlg?
Zaldy: bat parang hindi ko matandaa?
Zaldy: *matandaan?
Zaldy: haha
Zaldy: how come? I mean, that's a bit odd. only a few people tell me that
Girl: feel ko lng nun sweet ka
Girl: till now nmn eh
Zaldy: *blush emoticon*
Zaldy: ikaw talaga...
Zaldy: hindi ka pa rin nagbabago
Zaldy: bolera ka pa rin
Zaldy: hahaha
Girl: nde ah
Girl: that's true
Zaldy: alin? ung bolera part?
Zaldy: haha
Girl: nope
Girl: ung sweet ka
Zaldy: aaaawww
Zaldy: y thank you {girl’s name}
Zaldy: alam mo ba...
Zaldy: I'm so glad na lumabas ako ngaun, kahit gabi na...
Zaldy: I mean, dapat tlg sa bahay lang ako, e na-bore ako…
Girl: ah
Girl: tlga
Girl: bkt nmn lumabas kpa
Zaldy: I was thinking: something ought to happen this night, its friday!
Zaldy: so I went out, nag-internet
Girl: ah
Zaldy: then you're here, chatting with me
Girl: haha
Zaldy: then you start your sweet-ka-naman-talaga-dati-pa talk
Zaldy: and you just made my evening right
Zaldy: J
Zaldy: omg! I am so gonna make you my Girlfriend!
Girl: tlga
Girl: 22o nmn eh
Girl: haha
Zaldy: I know I know
Zaldy: thanks ulet
Girl: ure welcome
Zaldy: haha
Girl: gtg
Zaldy: too bad
Girl: kelan ka OL ulet?
Zaldy: I dunno...
Zaldy: its not like every night is gonna be like this...
Girl: geh OL aku lge pg nyt
Girl: kw tlga
Zaldy: haha
Girl: ge po
Zaldy: really? gabi gabi ka?
Girl: yeah
Girl: nyt po
Zaldy: ok then....
Zaldy: gudnyt {girl’s name}
Zaldy: miss yah
Girl: ok
Girl: so do i..mwah
Zaldy: I'll see yah, maybe 2 weeks from now
Zaldy: mwah
Zaldy: *hug emoticon*
Zaldy: *kiss emoticon*
Girl: *kiss emoticon*
Girl: *hug emoticon*
Zaldy: nasau pa ba ung number ko?
Girl: yeah
Zaldy: ano nga ulit number mo?
Girl: {insert number}
Zaldy: saved
Zaldy: o well...
Zaldy: cgeh
Zaldy: gudnyt agn sweetie
Girl: okies
Girl: mwah
Saturday, May 3, 2008
WANTED: Research Assistant
Bahay Tuluyan is a non-profit organisation working with children in need of special protection (CNSP) in the Philippines. Bahay Tuluyan is currently providing alternative education and social services for children in Manila, Laguna and Quezon, Philippines.
A report has been published by a team of Australian Volunteers documenting the indiscriminate "rescue" of street children in Manila.
In line with this, the organization is looking for 6 Research Assistants. Any interested applicant could send their resume to info@bahaytuluyan.org. The project, I was told, is to be conducted from June - November this year (As a matter of fact, I already applied and had my initial interview 2 weeks ago).
Good Luck!
A report has been published by a team of Australian Volunteers documenting the indiscriminate "rescue" of street children in Manila.
In line with this, the organization is looking for 6 Research Assistants. Any interested applicant could send their resume to info@bahaytuluyan.org. The project, I was told, is to be conducted from June - November this year (As a matter of fact, I already applied and had my initial interview 2 weeks ago).
Good Luck!
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